Opinions are like...well you know...everyone has one

Hi There!!  Just wanted to share an experience with you that may help you in so many ways!  Perhaps you have been a victim of such a crime!!  Or perhaps this may help you "re-organize" your conversations in the future!!

I was "assaulted" recently by a "well meaning" "friend" regarding "my weight".  I know she didn't mean harm, but I also know that she was just not thinking.  People are so into themselves and their opinions and they just don't stop to think about the impact that their "well meaning" opinions have upon the recipient.  Here was the situation...

I was sitting at a table of approximately 8 ladies during a social luncheon.  Something came up about weight and my friend announced to the table that when she met me I "was beautiful" but now you have taken your weight loss thing over the edge"...indicating that I am too thin (I guess) and no longer beautiful.  This statement embarrassed the Hell out of me and made me VERY uncomfortable in front of several women whom I had just met.  My statement to "my friend" was that my weight is perfectly proportionate to my height and, yes, I have lost several pounds since I stopped working but I feel great and I am neither underweight nor overweight.  What I wanted to say was that now that so many people are overweight or obese, when we see someone within normal weight limits we think they are too skinny......sad statement!!

TIP:  Regardless of a person's weight (past or present), regardless of whether or not or or she has lost weight, it is in bad taste to bring up their weight loss in mixed company.  Weight loss is a personal health matter.  Use your head when addressing someone about their weight.  Like mother always said...."The best way to keep from inserting foot into mouth is to keep it shut...if you can't say anything good...don't say anything at all!!    Tsk Tsk to my well meaning, out of touch friend. 
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Advice:  Keep your opinions to yourself and just stick to the weather...

Weight loss and a healthy management of body weight is - unfortunately, becoming a thing of the past.  Everywhere I turn I see muffin tops, fat arms, bra bulge, cellulite....oh the horror!!  What used to be a size 14 is now a size 8....and women are falling for this clever marketing scam - that is the sadness of it all.  Do NOT be fooled by these marketing devils - look in the mirror and get a grip on reality!! Marilyn Monroe was a size 8........ARE YOU??  I bet not!!  Weight loss and weight management is at your fingertips - don't turn a blind eye to health.  Remember "The Golden Years" are already upon us - regardless of age.  Life is not fun without your good health - and good health cannot be accomplished if you are carrying around extra pounds that need to come off.  Start your weight loss plan TODAY and quit making wimpy excuses -  Life gets in the way of everything....don't let it get in the way of your health and happiness.  Remember - there are 365 days in each year and you have used 365 excuses for your fatness so STOP IT!!  Are you kidding me right now with your "too much stress" lame excuse??  Perhaps if you would shed that extra 20lbs you would be better equipped to handle the stress of life.  Stop being grouped with all the "fatties" out there!  Grow some inner strength and get your butt in gear.

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YOU'VE RUN OUT OF EXCUSES!

High School Obesity

I've had the opportunity to "substitute teach" at our local high schools and junior high schools over the past year.  Now I am NOT a prude by a long shot.....but, with over 80% of the girls being overweight or obese, it is necessary for me to either cover my eyes or look the other way.  From what I have observed, the "in" style is short, short shorts.  In my day we called them Hot Pants - but then again, the girls that wore them were hot - and those who were not so hot knew enough to stick to their trusty cords.  Apparently, the overwhelming epidemic of obesity has clouded the judgement of young ladies and they must not realize that they are indeed fat - or they surely would make a wardrobe selection appropriate to their level of fatness.

And then there is that "glazed over" look in their eyes - both boys and girls - as they saunter lazily into class with their earphones plugged in, mouth breathing.  Oh yes, earphones/headphones are not allowed...but then again, rules are something from the far away past and following the rules is now not enforced.  The only flicker of life I see is an "in your face" angry defiance when corrected or given direction within the classroom setting.  When I asked a high school boy to go to his assigned class after the tardy bell (hat turned sideways, hanging on a young lady) - he retorted in an offensive posture:  "I don't need your attitude"......... Sadly, he does need my attitude.

Not that the 70's (when I attended high school) was an era of outstanding wardrobe and behavior on the part of the students - but at least when someone had that "glazed over" look in their eyes - we knew it was due to the influence of drugs.....not a pathetic disregard for life and authority as is seen today.

WiTHIN You Now!® A Psychological/Behavioral Therapy for Weight Loss: Approach Shots

WiTHIN You Now!® A Psychological/Behavioral Therapy for Weight Loss: Approach Shots: Today is the third (and final) day of the Women's Club Championship golf tournament at South Hills Country Club.  I have the privilege and h...

Approach Shots

Today is the third (and final) day of the Women's Club Championship golf tournament at South Hills Country Club.  I have the privilege and honor of being a participant.  I am in the third flight (there are three flights in descending order of handicap range) and so far I do believe I am in last place.  But NONETHELESS, I am happy to even qualify for such a prestigious event.  I played in it last year and my improvement is VAST!!  This July will mark the end of my second year of of playing golf and it has been an extraordinary journey - everything from learning "the ropes" of the process of booking tee times, club storage, rules & regulations, course edicate, the whole "social" network of my lady golfers with whom I have become networked, and of course learning how to make contact with that little tiny ball that sits there glaring at me....laughing while I'm crying.  Tough, tough game!!  I get frustrated with myself that my progress has (in my opinion) been slow, but COME ON!!!!  I've gone from a 49 handicap to a 35 in less than two years!!  That means my handicap has dropped 7 points each year - at this rate, next year at this time I will be a 28 hcp, and the year after (2014) I will be a 21 hcp....so what's so wrong with that?!?!?  Rome was not built in a day!!  Success at anything takes time, work, perseverance, drive, desire and....did I mention WORK!!  Ergo developing successful, lifetime weight management skills (you knew where I was going with this didn't you?)........

If you've been beating yourself up because you feel your progress or "success" is too slow - or non-existent, lighten up, sit back and analyze your approach.  Are you giving your plan to lose weight and keep it off time?  Have you been working at it everyday, every minute?  Do you have an attitude of perseverance and drive?  Do you even have the desire to take control of your weight?  Have you been visualizing yourself slender, fit and comfortable in your own skin?

Life is too short to be fat.......AND you have control of Becoming the person you know you can be.  Dig in, expect some pain and discomfort, keep driving forward and GO GET that inner strength that is deep WiTHIN You Now!®......  If I can do it - You can do it......

Last tip of the day -  If you don't golf, don't start.  It's expensive, time consuming and WAY TOO DIFFICULT!!  Put your walking shoes on and get moving instead - you will not regret this decision :)))  (Wish me luck today - tee time 9:32am).....

Exercise is great....yadda, yadda...BUT if ya wanna lose weight ya gotta.....

YES...I AGREE....EXERCISE IS THE ULTIMATE HEALTH SOLUTION AND EVERYONE SHOULD DO IT EVERYDAY......BUT.....if you want to lose weight and keep it off you must do the following: 

• Learn to expect, identify and fight "the urge" when it rears its ugly head and it will no matter how AMAZING your food plan.
• Learn to ignore, shut out and shut down the outside influences that want you to fail (Friendly Fire):  Friends, Family, and Strangers who are fat and miserable themselves and attempt to trip you up by telling you things such as:  "You're too thin already", "You look great the way you are", and the most famous:  "You've gotta treat yourself sometime"... These tactics may or may not be intentional on their part but WHO CARES????  IGNORE, be thin and smile as they sit there stuffed into their size 10 jeans and their loose fitting tops that they think are hiding their pot bellies, muffin tops and love handles.
• Learn to stay focused every minute, every day, every week, every month, every passing year....know that "it" never ends and everyday brings an entire set of new challenges.
• Learn to Become "goal oriented".....use self hypnosis, visual imagery and heavy day dreaming to get a picture of the "YOU" that you can and will Become....

Science has proven that those who imagine success - achieve success.

Quit excusing your fat rolls, quit hiding your cellulite, start looking great and feeling great - If I can do it.....YOU can do it!

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Another Monday

Notice how Mondays seem to crop up every seven days or so?  Boring....boring.  Don't let the first day of the work week get you down.  Be thankful that you have a job and a paycheck and another "structured" day....let Monday work FOR you - not against you.  Plan ahead for Tuesday - another opportunity for success. 

Think as FAR in advance as you can possibly think when it comes to ingestion of food.  Plan for today, tomorrow and every Monday to come.  We are so blessed to be alive, we re so blessed to have the gift of life.  Take care of YOUR life by eating healthfully, planning ahead, fighting the "urge" head on and Becoming the Person you know you can be.

Be in Charge of YOUR Behavior -  YOU are in charge.  Tell your opposers to "talk to the hand"....

Believe in YOU --   I do.....  Dr. Stacey

Another day...another challenge...another opportunity

I had a conversation several days ago with a group of women who were discussing "weight loss"....I am always amused, entertained and enlightened listening to the personal stories and opinions regarding weight loss in general.  The consensus at the table was the following:  "It is more difficult for those who only need to lose 10 pounds or so".....the thinking was that since the weight loss goal is so small it is OK to go ahead with "that special occasion splurge"..... This type of thinking is defeating and SO INCORRECT!  This type of thinking is also associated with what I call "permissions"....giving oneself permission to not follow a food plan that will lower health risks for heart attack, stroke and diabetes.  There are 365 days in the year and AT LEAST 365 reasons to have a "special occasion splurge"...

Don't quit on yourself - give yourself the opportunity to be as healthy as possible by shedding those fat pounds through Becoming the person you know you can be.  Quit excusing your bad behavior and give yourself the opportunity to look fantastic in your skinny jeans.  Truth be known....you probably don't look as wonderful as you may think !!! 

Start with Today

ok - WHAT'S YOUR EXCUSE TODAY?  If you tell me it's your dog's birthday and you always celebrate because "he knows" it's his big day....get real.  Dog's don't understand holidays - they only understand where the dog dish is, when to go pooh and where the coolest place is during the summer to splay out on their belly on a cool tile floor for maximum comfort.....birthday please!!  Just another excuse for YOU not to fight the urge.

Notice how most dogs are not overweight?  That's because they are fed an appropriate amount of food at an appropriate time - what a concept.

Try gutting it through your next urge to splurge like good old Duke has to do before giving yourself permission to eat "off plan"....rather - sit down and mentally prepare your next healthy meal or snack, then go take a 10 minute walk or jog in place for goodness sakes.  Your jeans will appreciate you!

It's not all fun and roses - get a grip, quit whining and making excuses.

Not At All "Cutsie"

Occasionally I peek at other blogs - I should do this more often, but having a case of what I am sure is Adult ADD, I get derailed, detatched, disinterested, bored.....and oh yes, slightly intimidated by creativeness in others that I do not seem to possess....so I go back to my own thing - putting into words for the rest of the world the process of following WiTHIN You Now!™ ....  On a good note, I have noticed that recently in the past few days 21 people have "purchased" my book (it is free right now on Smashwords) and 72 people have downloaded the free sample.  Dr. Phil show here I come!!

I never recommend what to eat and all that - but I will make this one exception.  My sister and I have found the pear apple flavor of the SOBE drink with zero calories and flavored naturally to be a great treat.  We dilute it down with water and ice (you can use zero calorie club soda if you like for a "pop")....great way to quench an urge and get some sweetness around 3pm when the urge sets in.  Try it!!

Weight management is all in your head (literally), it is all about learning to turn that intense urge to splurge into a powerful feeling of control, and letting all those Friendly Fire Sabotagers "talk to your hand".... YOU are in control of your choices - not them - yes they LOVE you, but BEWARE!!!  Have a great Sunday and think a few hours ahead before you find yourself in a desperate situation. 

WiTHIN You Now!™ A Psychological/Behavioral Therapy for Weight Loss: You MUST learn to fight the urge to eat!

WiTHIN You Now!™ A Psychological/Behavioral Therapy for Weight Loss: You MUST learn to fight the urge to eat!: Regardless of how well balanced your food intake.....you are going to be faced with the urge to eat beyond your food plan - it is just fact....

You MUST learn to fight the urge to eat!

Regardless of how well balanced your food intake.....you are going to be faced with the urge to eat beyond your food plan - it is just fact.  It is this urge that wrecks success.  Learning to identify and fight the urge when it is upon you is as important as knowing what foods will keep that urge at bay.  Let's face it -  NO FOOD PLAN IS PERFECT and boredom sets in after the love affair wears off.  Next time you are faced with that urgent urge to eat beyond your healthy food plan, don't jump into the fridge -  allow yourself to feel the urge and allow yourself time to turn that urgent urge into feelings of delight that your body is seeking calories and burning fat.  Enjoy the feeling of not being stuffed, and enjoy the feeling of thinking and reacting like the slender, fit person you know you can be.

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And another day is upon us...

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WiTHIN You Now!™ is a Psychological/Behavioral Therapy designed to promote weight loss and lifetime weight management utilizing the internal power, strength and energy that you own....Now!  Don't let another day go by feeling chunky.  Reduce your risk of heart disease and diabetes by achieving a reasonable weight loss goal and sticking with your program.  Learn to deal with the feelings of craving and appetite that have rendered you feeling hopeless and helpless.

If I can do it - you can do it.  What are you waiting for?  YOU have the power and energy to be successful.....Do it.

Grind it out!!

As a golf fan, I watch alot of it....maybe too much.  Very often I hear the commentators say that a player has to "grind it out".....meaning it is a tough go, lots of challenges on the course, lots of long, long, long birdie and par putts, battling to overcome a boogie or two....the golfer is just not "in the zone" or "rolling them in"...  Hence, "grind it out".  Hundreds of thousands of golf tournaments have been won by those players who keep moving forward green after green, tee after tee, not giving up, allowing themselves to succeed.

The Holidays are a time of year to "grind it out".....plan ahead, allow yourself to skip the junk and not feel deprived, and most importantly, don't allow friends and family to guilt you into sharing in their misery.....undoubtedly most of them are overweight.

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Erase Success Blockers

Be honest with yourself for one minute.  Write down five of your success blockers - then choose one to erase from your life.  If you are having a difficult time with this task -  here is a good example that may help most of you......

Success Blocker #1:  "Now is not a good time to start managing my weight because ________________" (fill in the blank with one of your on-going excuses (permissions).

Solution:  Admit to yourself that life's stressors NEVER STOP!!  Today is the BEST day to start managing your weight regardless of what you are going through.  Realize that you are using food to mask the day to day pains of living....and living can be painful.  Give this excuse (permission) a rest and stop relying on the foods that make you fat to make you feel better.

Now it's your turn.......

Lock Down and Shape Up!!

Hi All -  The twist on this blog entry may be a bit weird, but here goes!  I often hear people exclaim that they need or want a personal trainer and/or exotic exercise equipment or gym membership to help get in shape.....NOT NECESSARY!!  Take the buff, strong, in shape prisoners at San Quentin for instance (I told you this may be strange)......they have NO exercise equipment (their barbells were taken away), NO personal trainers, NO nutritional consultants, NO packaged foods, NO diet pills, and NO bariatric surgery. If you watch "Lock Down RAW", you will see that these bad boys are in great shape -  buff and strong with washboard abs to die for!!  These unfortunate incarcerates use the weight of their own body to build their muscles, they use the buddy system for resistance, they practice the fine art of stretching, isometrics, Yoga and meditation in the privacy of their own 4' x 6' jail cell.  Then during their one hour in "the yard" they play basketball, jog and anything else they can do to get their muscles moving and their heart pounding. Yes, they have more free time on their hands than you may have, but don't tell me you can't carve out 1/2 hour a day to spend on your body and your mind.

Stop looking "out there" for the solution to your weight management and lack of exercise problems.  The solutions are at your fingertips and in front of your TV.....put down an exercise mat and get to work - sit ups, leg lifts, push ups....GET CREATIVE!!  Then put your expensive running shoes on or those dorky "shape up shoes" that you bought and put them to work in your own neighborhood.  Set some reachable goals and reach them.  Then set more goals and reach them.

Personal trainers, expensive exercise equipment, packaged foods, diet pills and surgery only add to your problems. 

It's not WHAT but HOW!

Hunt the Internet and pick up a few Weight Watcher's books...put some effort into it.  Knowing WHAT to do is the easy part......getting yourself motivated every day is what keeps people from achieving success.  Don't tell me you want a "list" of foods to eat or not to eat.....take the time and effort to create a meal plan that consists of foods that you can tolerate with a preparation plan that will fit into your lifestyle.  Once you have done this, you are 30% of the way there.  The next 70% is all in your head! Learn to get your head to enjoy the feeling of healthy eating, enjoy a little bit of hunger/emptiness, and LOVE the feeling of dropping a few pounds each week....Don't be afraid of success - get tough - get strong and find your strength WiTHIN You Now!!!

What to eat when you're feeling hungry

Thank you so much to my reader who asked the all time favorite question:  "What do I eat when I am feeling hungry during those challenging hours at work?"..........

To my reader -  It sounds like you are doing all of the right things by having healthy snacks and a balanced diet.  But by your very comment, we may ascertain that you are still having those "cravings" that keep people fat - even thought you have had a balanced, healthy diet during the day and you have healthy snacks......hence the true meaning and foundational statement of..........

WiTHIN You Now!®

 Fending off the cravings means going deep inside.....deep WiTHIN to find the strength and power that you own to get through those times of cravings.  No food, snack or diet plan will make those cravings easier.  Think of those cravings as your body searching for stored calories while YOU LOSE WEIGHT!!! 

Wish there was a magic answer - but the best answers are the answers that you have WiTHIN You Now!

Lose Weight & Keep it off by FENDING!!!

If you are truly interested in losing weight and keeping if off forever - add these words to your daily (if not hourly) vocabulary.........FEND OFF!!!!  To fend is to "ward against" - and when it comes to weight loss and weight management, its all about fending off outside (and inside) negative influences.  Learn to find your inner strength and power to pay attention to, and subsequently fend off the influences that have destroyed your good intentions to Become slender, fit and healthy -  Below are a few examples of negative influences that are subtle, yet deadly that you must fend off and ignore, no matter what reaction you encounter from others......

FEND OFF....
Friends, family and co-workers that unintentionally (and intentionally) use guilt, persuasion, disgust, and anger to coax you into eating or drinking in a manner that is not conducive to weight loss and/or weight management.  Stop worrying about hurting them by not indulging with them.  Be a role model, not a door mat.

FEND OFF...
Your own feelings of deprivation and emptiness.  If you are following a low calorie, low fat meal plan that makes some sense (try Weight Watchers), feelings of deprivation and emptiness are the "survival chemicals" in your body trying to influence you to "store up for the winter".  Take your emotions out of the equation and turn those Negative Thought Patterns into Positive Thought Patterns that will lead you to success.  Feelings of deprivation and emptiness simply means your body is utilizing stored calories for energy and you are on your way to Becoming slender and fit.

Life is too short to be fat....give yourself a break and Become.

Three Common Dieting Errors

Error #1 -  Developing a mindset that eating healthfully is an "event" rather than an on-going, everyday, every minute "process".

Error #2 -  Believing that some certain combination of foods, some pill or herb, some special diet plan, or gastric surgery will eliminate the nagging craving for the wrong foods at the wrong time.

Error #3 -  Letting life go by as an overweight person without giving yourself a chance to experience the joys of a healthy body weight forever. 

STOP MAKING THE SAME DIETING ERRORS OVER AND OVER AGAIN.